Tell your mate how glad you are that he/she is a part of your life and how lucky I am to have him/her.
· Tell your mate that I love him just the way he/she is and that I wouldn’t trade him/her for any other man/woman in the world.
· Compliment your spouse often for his/her physical attributes (anything you find sexy).
· Compliment your spouse for the things he/she does (from playing with the children, to fixing the car)
Leave love notes for your spouse. Hide them in a lunch, purse, briefcase or around the house to surprise them.
· Write your spouse an old-fashioned love letter, love poem or write out the words to “your song”. Frame it and surprise your spouse with it.
· Take a vacation alone together at least once a year without the kids and go on mini weekend get-aways at least every few months if possible.
· Plan a weekly date night with your spouse and stick to it. If you can’t afford to go out to a fancy restaurant, find activities that are low budget, such as a free outdoor concert series and take along a romantic picnic lunch/dinner.
· Create a memory – do something different of out of character. For example: Meet your spouse at the door with a raincoat on and nothing on underneath or surprise your spouse by renting a hotel room close to his/her work and call them to have a romantic lunch interlude.
· Give into your spouse’s sexual advances, especially when you don’t feel like it and let them know how much you love them.
· Wear, use or display a gift item that your spouse has given you even if you aren’t thrilled with it. It will make them feel good.
· Surprise your spouse with a candle-lit dinner and flowers. Put on some romantic music and see where the night takes you.
· Plan a “theme dinner” for your loved one. Some examples that Ellen Kriedman gives in her book “Light His Fire”, are: A Hawaiian Haitus; A Night in Spain; A Morroccan Feast; A Venice Vacation; A Greek Picnic; A Japanese Party; An African Safari, etc. Make sure that you attend to every detail from type of food, music and costumes…it can really spice things up.
